Always do your best: your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse and regret.
The fourth of the four agreements #
“Proficiency and the results of proficiency come only to those who have learned the paradoxical art of doing and not doing, of combining relaxation with activity, of letting go as a person in order to that the immanent and transcendent Unknown Quantity make take hold.”
~ Aldous Huxley
Via The Antidote by Oliver Burkeman – highly recommended
Rise early morning on Saturday – feeling over work – feeling like a nature fix and some headspace – drive 60 mins from home before the motorway to the Gold Coast gets busy – park the car and head up Mount Bally via Little Mount Bally. Familiar scenery but haven’t been here before. Razorback Ridges are a reminder of how close death is. Eat an early packed lunch full of love at the summit with stunning 360 degree views. Not another soul in sight. The winter sun humbly recharges and reinvigorates. Head down to the car feeling refreshed. Love time in nature. Head home for some family time; a better person.
Today I walked my longest ever single day walk – 37km from Ballina to Byron Bay on the beautiful north coast of New South Wales, Australia.
I did this walk in 2016 but in reverse and a slightly shorter 35km version of it.
Even though I walked fast, finishing in less than five and a half hours, I still managed to take in the impressive scenery – I love this bit of coastline – nothing comes close.
“The ambiguity effect is a cognitive bias where decision making is affected by a lack of information, or “ambiguity”. The effect implies that people tend to select options for which the probability of a favorable outcome is known, over an option for which the probability of a favorable outcome is unknown. The effect was first described by Daniel Ellsberg in 1961.”
Some personal examples.
I will often choose a familiar restaurant, even when revisiting a foreign city, where the probably of a favourable outcome, a good meal, is higher. Or I will spend hours researching and reading reviews of restaurants increasing the likelihood of a nice meal. This means I may miss some of the great restaurants as I don’t consider any unknown options, or I choose something within known parameters.
On hiking to a mountain peak, on return I will typically follow the path I followed on the way up, or a path I have taken before. I don’t see this as a negative per se, as I believe it reduces the chances of getting lost or walking off a cliff.
How does the ambiguity effect affect your life?
“Don’t have too much contempt for the corrupted familiar.”
From a School of Life prompt card. I think about this often, it applies to almost all areas of my life.
“The trouble isn’t simply that we subjugate our non-work lives to work, but that we subjugate the present to the future – which, as you might have noticed, never arrives. In seeking to spend life as productively as we can, we bring upon ourselves the ultimate ironic punishment: we miss it.”
Oliver Burkeman – New Philosopher #20
“Fiction is one of the few experiences where loneliness can be both confronted and relieved. Drugs, movies where stuff blows up, loud parties — all these chase away loneliness by making me forget my name’s Dave and I live in a one-by-one box of bone no other party can penetrate or know. Fiction, poetry, music, really deep serious sex, and, in various ways, religion — these are the places (for me) where loneliness is countenanced, stared down, transfigured, treated.”
David Foster Wallace on Loneliness: I often like being alone – but I don’t like being lonely
A picture perfect hike up Mount Cougal: zigzagging along the Queensland and New South Wales Border through rainforest, visiting two peaks and crawling through a giant spear lilly tunnel. A decent way to spend a Sunday morning.
In the outskirts of Ballandean, a small town about 3 hours south west of Brisbane, Australia, lies a paddock. The thing that differentiates this paddock from every other paddock in the area is its unlikely contents: a 30 x 30 metre square and 18 metre high pyramid built with 9000 tonnes of rock. There’s no sign (except ‘no trespassing’), no explanation, and nothing surrounds it. It’s unlikely and unexpected.
“One of the biggest lessons is given a challenging situation — kids who want pizza — we all tend to default to what we should do instead of asking what we could do. My colleagues and I did an experiment in which I gave participants difficult ethical challenges where there seemed to be no good choice. I then asked participants either “What should you do?” or “What could you do?” We found that the “could” group were able to generate more creative solutions. Approaching problems with a “should” mindset gets us stuck on the trade-off the choice entails and narrows our thinking on one answer, the one that seems most obvious. But when we think in terms of “could,” we stay open-minded and the trade-offs involved inspire us to come up with creative solutions.”
When Solving Problems, Think About What You Could Do, Not What You Should Do
Cognitive behaviour therapy has taught me to avoid using and thinking of the word should as it discourages flexible thinking. Could thinking is a nice replacement.
We recently visited Sydney and about half-way between our accommodation and the nearby playground was a waterless water feature the boys couldn’t resist running through every time. I loved all the lines.
The first thing to comes to mind when I think of prolific is the collection of barrel cacti at The Huntington Gardens in Los Angeles. My happy place 😊
Part of the WordPress.com weekly photo challenge.
So sad to hear the news that Avicii is no longer with us. One of my favourite electronic dance music artists – we’ve spent much time dancing to his songs in our lounge rooms over the years. Rest In Peace 💙
“We chose to increase the complexity of our lives by having children”
I found this article and diagram by Austin Kleon very insightful—as a five person household I now realize we have
12 10 relationships to manage. You can apply the same concept to work teams.
Even though I’m a big fan of simplicity, I don’t necessarily see our family complexity negatively, as Marcus in About A Boy says:
“Suddenly I realized – two people isn’t enough. You need backup. If you’re only two people, and someone drops off the edge, then you’re on your own. Two isn’t a large enough number.”
I’ll always have fond memories of Flinders Peak in that it was my first tough mountain that I tackled by myself on my nature/fitness journey. I’ve got this week off work so I did a solo trip up mid-morning yesterday. I thought I’d check out the southern side of the mountain and discovered some great views south and back towards the peak that I hadn’t seen before. Refreshing.